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A Word To The Wise. Listening To Smart People. A #ThinkKit Post

Today’s #ThinkKit prompt was “What was the wisest decision you made this year?”

The wisest decision I made this year was at the advice of my friend Hazel Walker. Many people know how she is. Yes, that Hazel. She’s like Prince. You can say her first name and everyone know’s who you are talking about.

I ran into H at an event downtown. Just a chance crossing. Every so often, her path crosses my path. We were talking about the future of BgKahuna and where I should take it.I did not know where to go with it. Like all pieces of good advice, you don’t listen to it right away. Why, because we, as a species are very stupid. Even though someone, who has walked in your shoes, has been there we don’t hear the message. We can’t let ourselves listen to the truth. She gave me a lot things to think about. Most of these ideas I was working on at the time and Hazel confirmed them. I felt good because I was on the right track.

I went home and didn’t act on our discussion. Why, because sometimes I’m stupid and stubborn to listen to smart people. Yeah, it happens to all of us. After a couple months, I started thinking about my conversation with Hazel. Why a couple months, did I mention I was Irish and stubborn? Yeah, a great combination. I wasn’t just thinking about what we talked about, I started acting on it. I started down the path of positive living. Using this blog to help others find happiness and the mental strength to overcome anything. I mean ANYTHING. If you follow me on Twitter, you know we can donut!

I am still in the early stages of this transformation. I changed the design of the blog. I am writing and sharing more positive material. I am reading more about psychology and happiness to be able to share that as well. This change has made me a better person and parent. Even though I didn’t hear the advice of a smart person, I was listening to her. Believe it or not, what she said did sink into my thick skull. I just had to move on my terms and pace.

This is part of the ThinkKit 31 Days of Blogging. Every day, bloggers in the challenge receive a writing prompt and blog about it. This program is to inspire daily writing. For more information, check out the ThinkKit website.

What Makes You Happy? A #ThinkKit Post.

The #ThinkKit prompt for today was to take a poll. I went with a topic I want to know more about, what makes people happy. I posted the following question on Facebook, Instagram, Instagram and Google +.

What makes you happy?

Frappacinos and good people – Pat D

Besides the low hanging fruit… Kids, family… I enjoy my wood shop where I build things like step ladders so I can grab said low hanging fruit much easier. – David M

Seeing my close friends and family happy makes me happy. Even if things aren’t going my way, it’s all just an afterthought. Roscoe V.D.

Making my family and happy. This is my first year adopting an “Elf on a shelf” and day 2 has already brought tons of laughter. A smile and a laugh shared is so contagious. Kate C.

Listening to Christmas songs, gifts are not important as Pete and I get older, we just want gather with family and have some good laughter Bonnie M.

Making people laugh. Accomplishing things.
And an XL coffee from Dunkin Donuts. – Chris M.

Random Acts of Kindness. While I give them as much as I can, I’m always in awe when I find myself in the receiving end of one. I’m especially caught off guard when it’s a kind word of appreciation from a patient. At the same time, those sometimes make me sad in the fact that I’m almost brought to tears at times. It just shows how rare they’ve seemingly become. Then again, maybe it just means I don’t take them for granted like I used to. Lynn W.

Nothing makes me happy, I just CHOOSE to be Happy Sometimes when I am a Unicorn I feel ultra happy and liberated from day to day routine of being me. Hazel W.

Snow…and books. Beth G.

Being able to be with family and friends and to put smiles on their faces and make them laugh. And using a sharpie on them while sleeping falls in this category!! John K.

Waking up every morning taking a deep breath, looking around seeing how far I’ve come I’m life, my husband and knowing so much more lies ahead Shannon S.

I am happy waking to another day ~ can’t wait to see what each one brings! Shirley R.

Hearing my sons laugh. Rocky W.

Knowing those around me are happy, especially if I played even a tiny role in their happiness. Pamela R.

Realized goals. A few more: helping others, teaching others, walking through downtown Indy, and writing Jason.

beyond bacon, selfies and cat videos? @IndyGator

Family & friends, good health, creative pursuits. and a good cheeseburger. Randy C.

hearing my children and my wife laugh, helping others, time with family, pizza, and watching sports Aaron B.

Free time! Sara M.

Simple things: first snow, a child’s laughter, a quiet run. Abbi A.

Sharing meals with friends. A good book. My daughters. Bill B.

Coming home each night after work to my girls. (I’d be even happier if the cleaned the kitchen ) Shafferb on Instargram

On the four online social, 22 people responded to this informal poll. I was surprised to learn there were almost as many things that made people happy than people making people happy. Some people told me that people and things made them happy. In these situations, both cases were counted. There was a bigger response from Facebook than the other online social networks. Yes, I polled this question on Google+, I’m crazy like that.
Here is the breakdown:
People make them happy – 16 (Family – 10 / Friends – 8)
Things make them happy – 13

Online social networks:
Facebook – 14
Twitter – 5
Instagram – 1
Google+ – 2

So, now that you know what makes other people happy. What makes you happy?

This is part of the ThinkKit 31 Days of Blogging. Every day, bloggers in the challenge receive a writing prompt and blog about it. This program is to inspire daily writing. For more information, check out the ThinkKit website.


What’s Next?

What happens next?
Well, I’m going to tell you. First, thank you to everyone who sent words of encouragement and shared the post from last week. I am very appreciative. Your support means a lot to me and I use it as fuel to keep posting. Support is extremely helpful when starting something new. It doesn’t matter if you’re shifting the direction of your blog or trying to lose weight. The journey is a lot more enjoyable when you have a known support network.

Second, the posts I write are going to be about topics I think are important and issues close to my heart. Well, obviously, or I wouldnt be writing them, right? I want to share information about positive parenting, health and wellness, general happiness and the importance of taking care of your mental health. I plan to use data from academic journals to support a lot of these concepts and try and explain them in real life scenarios. As important as I feel these issues are, I don’t want to treat my opinion as fact. Because, most blog posts are just that, a writer’s opinion on a specific issue. There are going to be people who disagree with me. That’s great because it creates a conversation. Conversation involving different opinions and backgrounds is how we learn. I have no problems with people writing based on an opinion of a topic. I think it’s awesome! However, if you want to make a life change, you probably want to know where the concepts are coming from or if I’m talking crazy. Don’t worry, I’m hyper, so you’ll get plenty of my crazy.

Finally, I am working on a video series to share stories of how people achieve and maintain their happiness. I know there are plenty of people out there who are working to overcome an issue that someone else has experienced. The focus of these short videos will be the story. How does a particular person find happiness? What do they do when they feel depressed? What changes have they made in their life to see the world more favorably? How to they share positivity with others? If you are interested in sharing your story, contact me and we’ll set up a time to talk. I have talked to several people who have agreed to be interviewed about how and why they do what they do. I am very excited about this.

Be awesome and take care,


Change Is Good, Time To Move In A New Direction


Have you ever reached a point in your life when you just feel you need a change to move forward? You don’t know what the change is, but you know something has to give because you feel so so stuck. A feeling of something gnawing at your well being and happiness But you can’t put a finger on exactly what it is. I’ve had this feeling for the last several months. If I’m not doing anything productive, it pops into my head like a crazed squirrel and will not leave. A feeling which keeps on bothering me urging me to become more and more frustrated because I am not working at moving forward.

What is this big change? No, I’m not becoming a woman or leaving my wife to join the carnival. I’m leaving the obnoxious comedy/ PR business. This will make my wife very proud. She no longer has to listen to me rework drivel. I am no longer going to do stupid humorous things which embarrass myself to make people laugh. Im going to embarrass myself by moving in a new direction. I’m still going to do funny stuff with my friends, but no more crazy stupid. (if you tell me crazy stupid is my Brand, you will get a throat punch.) I’ve been thinking about this for quite some time, I am going to use my small piece of Internet real estate to show people how to live a healthier, happier life and overcome obstacles. You’re asking yourself, “How does he know how to do that?” or “Who does he think he is?” Good news, I Can Donut and I know who I am!

After motivating myself to step outside my comfort zone, I want to help others do the same. I want to show others it’s possible to live a positive, happy life while reaching realistic goals while raising a family and working for The Corporation. I want to show other people it’s possible to be a positive role model for their family. I want to show people They Can Donut! Yes, I’m going to become “one of those motivational people”. You can thank the guy who called me obnoxiously optimistic for that.

After many years, I have finally realized who I am and what I am supposed to be doing here on this rock. As with anything, some will sit in the grandstand and watch, waiting for me to fail. That’s is totally okay. Because people who sit and wait for others to fail, just so they can point the failure out and embarrass others are usually too afraid to make any life chance to better themselves because they’re afraid of failing. I pray for these people and hope they can break the chains of negativity preventing them from living a happy life.

Over the next couple of weeks, you’re probably going to notice some changes on the site and online. Hopefully, we’ll take this trip together and learn something from each other. I have some more good news, I am not going to become a totally humorless person. I was fortunate to get the gift of humor, and I am going to use it to be a happier me.
Thank you and take care,

BTW They’re not typos, they’re Easter eggs. You win a Kahuna Buck for everyone you find.

My New Quest: How Do People Achieve Happiness?

I am on a new quest, to find out what makes people happy. You can call this the Kahuna Happiness Project(KHP). I am going on a mission to explore what makes people happy. I won’t be asking my wife this question because it will probably revolve around me doing the dishes. I want to talk to people about how they define happiness. How do you define it? What ( family friendly ) things make you happy? I wonder if the people who are working minimum  wage jobs are happy with their lives. Not that money is everything, but how do they view happiness.

What you do you think it is? Money, fame, recognition, power, serving others? I have no idea. I really don’t even know what makes me happy anymore. I enjoy my family, my job, and the things I do. But, am I happy? Or is this like The Matrix? One thing that does make me happy is exercising. That is one thing that I have consistently worked at over the last six months. I see working out as my therapy sessions. Of course there is some neurological activity happening there, but I feel a lot better on the days I exercise than the days I don’t. If I go two days without exercising, I get a little antsy. Three days and there’s a good chance someone is going to get hurt.

A couple weeks ago, we did the Free Hugs Indy event. That seemed to make people happy. Both the huggers and the huggees really enjoyed the event. In a couple weeks, we have a virtual 5k. There is a lot of chatter on our Facebook event page about people looking forward to this event at the end of March. That make me happy to see people bettering themselves.

I am reading a book that is a 52 week plan to live a more enjoyable life. I just started it and I am making some small habit modifications. The focus is taking care of me. Weeks one and two are about meditation and eating better. Yeah, easy start because I am already on that plan.Yes, I eat better. I am still working on mediation. I hope this does not chill me out too much.

So, our blogging journey is going to take a slightly different direction in the next few months. We are still going to have some fun but it will probably be a lot more calmer than the past couple of years. In social media they call it “re-branding”. At least that’s what I learned on Twitter. I hope you stick around. If you are an unhappy person, you may learn something. Or just stop reading and go away, it’s ok, I am not offended. If that makes you happy, that’s awesome.

Take Care,