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Kahuna Positivity Manifesto – August 3rd, 2016

Good morning Big Sexy people!
Today is one of the happiest memories of my life. It’s MaM’s birthday. 
We learned early in our marriage that we may not be able to have our own children. Then we explored the possibility of adoption and connected with an agency on the south side. Michelle and I created a scrapbook for prospective birth parents. We were selected even after their mother found my social media account. Turns out when you’re in your 20’s it difficult to find pictures of yourselves not holding wine glasses.

It was amazing to be able to be there for MaM’s birth. We call her The Monkey because she was born with long, tiny fingers. The name fit because she can climb anything.

We love watching her grow up and be her own person. Growing up a red head is always an adventure. Trust me, I know, I used to be one. 

So on this day at 8:03am weighing in at 8 pounds and three ounces, MaM entered our lives ready to take on the world. 

Love and cherish your children. They’re our future.

Be awesome!

Be Big Sexy!
I love you all!
This post is part of my Kahuna Positivity Manifesto. Treat positivity like cross fit or training for a marathon, tell as many people as possible all the time.


My 2016 Goal, Focusing On My Family 

Happy New Year!

I think 2016 is going to be a great year. 

Can I tell you a little secret? I think every year is going to be great. Why? Because I go into every year expecting the best and look at the positive events. Every January 1st, I am pretty sure I proclaim this will be a great year. 

This past year ended with siding being blown off my house in a December wind storm. It looked pretty bad and a little less than a quarter of the siding came off the back off the house. From the look of some of the other houses in the neighborhood, we got pretty lucky. Other houses had roof damage and they lost siding on the entire side of the house. Right now, it’s covered and we’re working with the insurance company. 

I have one goal for 2016. That’s it. My goal is get my family and myself to the end of the year in one piece. For the next 365 days, I’m focusing on family. 

How can we communicate better?

How can we go longer periods of time without electronics?

How can the kids become more mindful?

How can the kids become more empathetic towards other?

How can I better help my kids work through some of the disappointments of growing up?

How can I build a stronger relationship with my kids and wife?

How can I be more available at home while working on the extracurricular activities I’m volunteer with?

How can I be a better person?

These are some of the things I’m going to work on this year. The list will probably grow. I know it will grow and that’s fine, adapt and change. 

Two things The Rookie Dad was going to focus on this year was patience and consistency. 

Everything else is secondary. Lots of other things can change. Family is forever. We are  stuck together whether we like it or not. 

Take care and be awesome and big sexy. 

The WTHR Health and Fitness Expo


The Kahuna’s got a chance to experience the WTHR Health & Fitness Expo at the Indiana State Fairgrounds Exhibition Hall. As many of you know, we have recently re-started our fitness lifestyle. We take the little people to play at the park. Michelle and I have Fitbit challenges to see who can complete more steps in a day and I am hosting a You Can Donut 5k. FYI I am undefeated in the Fitbit challenge. The health expo let the kids try some activities for the first time.

MaM and The Fox took an introductory tennis course, went through a gymnastics obstacle, and watched a USA Gymnastics presentation with a trampoline.

The most exciting part for MaM was racing Michelle through the obstacle course sponsored by the Indiana State Police. MaM and Michelle completed burpees, a medicine ball carry, and big tire push. I’ll let you read her account of this on her blog at Gotchababy.


One of the highlights was the family portrait/bike race on the Nine 13 Sports bike exhibit. I won three races. The best part, for me, was watching MaM helpThe Fox finish the race by helping him peddle.

The health expo goes through today at 5pm at the Indiana State Fairgrounds. For tickets, go to WTHR.com/EXPO. For free tickets, enter the promo code HEALTH. Hope you can check it out.

Disclosure: I was given free admission to the health expo in exchange for posting about the event on social networks. You can follow my crazy on Twitter and Instagram with the #13HealthExpo hashtag


Thanksgiving and Families-Relax, Everything’s Going To Be All Right

Who’s heading home for Thanksgiving Day and possibly the weekend?
Are you stressed?
Are you freaked out by this?

Don’t be. Just relax and go with the flow. I hear a lot of my friends complaining about having to spend long amounts of time with their family or their spouse’s family. I get it, it can be extremely stressful. I am very fortunate not to have one of ‘those’ in-law families. I am lucky to be able to go on an adventure to explore abandoned buildings with my father-in-law while implying on Facebook he is taking me out into the middle of nowhere to be left for dead.
Yes, he saw all the posts I did that day. Why? Because he’s cool like that.

Take a deep breath. You can do this.
Remember, its only for a weekend or a couple of hours.
Lay off the booze, it won’t make an awkward situation any better. Unlike the movies, booze hurts more than it helps.

Try meditation. Deep breaths will help relax your inner core. Do what you can to relax.

Everyone has a crazy relative who kind of an idiot and says stupid things. Unfortunately, being an idiot is their thing. They are usually good at drilling in to people weakness and hitting that hot button like a crazed spider monkey. My ‘pro tip’ is not to take anything they say personally. Let it go. Be the bigger person. Trust me, it’s hard to do, but you can do it. Never engage the crazy, especially around the holidays. Definitely don’t do this if there is a full moon. Full moons bring out the creepy crazy.

Take care and be safe.


A Fun Game For Thanksgiving, Family Bingo

Looking for a fun game around the holidays? One that Michelle and I like to play is Family Bingo. Have any of you played this?

Many of you are asking, “Kahuna, how do you play Family Bingo?” In some parts of the world it is called In-law Bingo. You get the point, right? Good news, it’s real easy. As you are trekking to your family or in-laws, make a list of all the crazy things that might be said during your visit. You know all those conversational topics you’re not supposed to discuss with the group you’re visiting? Start with those. Politics! Religion! Same sex marriage! Go though your local newspaper. Surprisingly, your local news will give you an enormously long list of topics. If it’s not controversial, don’t add it to your list.

Once you have your topics defined, you’re ready to start. Using an combination of these news topics and knowledge of the personality types at your family event, start crafting the phrases you might hear to win an exciting round of Family Bingo.

Some bingo boxes are pretty easy. For example, anything mentioning President Obama but the word president is left out. This is a good topic if there are plenty of old people. Old people Family Bingo phrases are worth double points. Same sex marriage will be another hot topic this year. If you’re staying near Indianapolis, get the family to bring up the Bissard sentence that was issued the other day. BOOM and you’re welcome.

Family issues are always fun. Another fun topic is people who owe other family members money. Why isn’t (fill in the blank) dating/working/having a baby? You know these people. This will give you an advantage over your spouse.

There is one rule to this game, you cannot lead a conversational topic. You can hint towards it and hope someone bites, but if you directly mention the topic, you lose a point. To get full points in the round, the topic must be casually brought up and discussed. When the conversation starts to lull, you can use a wild card and jump start it with a national, controversial news event. If a fight breaks out, double points! If the police a called, TRIPLE the points.

Use caution when playing this game around Thanksgiving. Depending on how many points your score, your family may not be talking to each other at Christmas. If you play at Christmas, tempers usually calm down by Easter.
Then, sit back and enjoy.
Have a fun, safe, and enjoyable Thanksgiving.