Big Sexy Manifesto – Sunday, July 30th, 2016

Good morning Big Sexy people.

Sunday is family day for us. We attend church then we do our day. Usually plan a hike or an adventure to a local park.
To me, family is an important thing. We work to build strong relationships with the kids so we have that bond when they get older. 

Michelle and I lead by example as well. The kids see how we treat each other and the other members of our family. We both have good relationships with our parents, brothers and sisters.
Whenever the extended family gets together, there is usually a lot of crying from laughing. Although we are spread out across the midwest, we are able to get together a couple times a year around the holidays. We believe it’s important for the kids to have relationships with their aunts, uncles and cousins. 
Tips to building stronger relationships with your family.

Active listening

Positive communication

Lot of laughing

Leading by example
What do you do to build stronger relationships in your family?
“Families are like fudge. Mostly sweet with a bunch of nuts.“
Be awesome!

Be Big Sexy!
I love you all!
This post is part of my Kahuna Positivity Manifesto. Treat positivity like cross fit or training for a marathon, tell as many people as possible all the time.


Big Sexy Manifesto – Saturday, July 30th, 2016

Good morning Big Sexy people!

Happy Saturday to all of you. I hope you’re all having a great day so far. IMO, if you got up out of bed, it’s a great day. 
As those of you with kids start the back to school routines, try and keep it together. 
Dads ‘s,

Help your spouses. There’s a lot of moving pieces happening to get the kids ready for school. Reach out to your spouse and ask “What do you need me to do to make this year’s ‘Back to School’ adventure as stress free as possible?” If they don’t need help, don’t offer to “help improve” their system. 

If you need some help, ask us. We all know you’re the commander of the family ship. Tell us what we need to do help make this year’s Back to School adventure less stressful.

Be cool. This happens every August. (September if you were born in the 70’s). Ask mom and dad what you can do to help as well. Maybe ease up on the public meltdown while shopping for pencils and notebooks. (Do kids still need pencils and notebooks? Or have they switched to tablets and stylus’?)

Families are like small armies. Whether you’re two strong or, like mine, nine strong. We need to show our kids that we all need to help out and work together. 


We need to demonstrate to kids that family success is a team sport. We need to show them how to deal with potentially stressful situations in a positive way through teamwork. In a family, everyone has a job to do. 
This picture is from the first day of school in 2013. 
How does your family complete the Back to School routine? 
For money saving tips, check out Cherie Lowe, AKA. The Queen of Free on Facebook. 

I’m going to start my incorporating some YouTube fun into this page. So, stay tuned. 
Be awesome!

Be Big Sexy!
I love you all!
This post is part of my Kahuna Positivity Manifesto. Treat positivity like cross fit or training for a marathon, tell as many people as possible all the time.



Good morning Big Sexy people!

Good morning Big Sexy people!
I didn’t forget about you. I’ve been thinking about you since Big Win Friday. 
I’ve been busy getting back into life after being off for a couple days. I spent spent Saturday driving all day. We got a flat two miles from the US border. Ugh. Caught up with the kids on Sunday. Worked on getting out of email jail at work yesterday. Went from over 350 emails to 18 workable tasks that in ten hours. 
Michelle and I went to Stratford, Ontario, to celebrate our anniversary. We left the kids at Camp Grandma. Great place. If you like the theater and are looking for a quick trip, check it out. It’s a fun place. 
On the way home, we started discussing civility. When did so many people start becoming uncivilized? When did the norm become to start verbally attacking a person just because you don’t agree with them. I think it started when the chances of the person attacking back had absolutely no chance of showing up and clocking us in the mouth. 
I’m going back to not discussing politics, religion or money in public. We need more people acting like proper ladies and gentlemen. Call me a prude, it’s all right. Something needs to change. 
We need to pass this life skill on to our kids. Just because you can share your opinion on something, doesn’t mean you have to every time. 
If you don’t have anything nice to say, keep your mouth shut. 
Be awesome!

Be Big Sexy!

I love what you do! 
I love you all!
This post is part of my Kahuna Positivity Manifesto. Treat positivity like cross fit or training for a marathon, tell as many people as possible all the time.



My 2016 Goal, Focusing On My Family 

Happy New Year!

I think 2016 is going to be a great year. 

Can I tell you a little secret? I think every year is going to be great. Why? Because I go into every year expecting the best and look at the positive events. Every January 1st, I am pretty sure I proclaim this will be a great year. 

This past year ended with siding being blown off my house in a December wind storm. It looked pretty bad and a little less than a quarter of the siding came off the back off the house. From the look of some of the other houses in the neighborhood, we got pretty lucky. Other houses had roof damage and they lost siding on the entire side of the house. Right now, it’s covered and we’re working with the insurance company. 

I have one goal for 2016. That’s it. My goal is get my family and myself to the end of the year in one piece. For the next 365 days, I’m focusing on family. 

How can we communicate better?

How can we go longer periods of time without electronics?

How can the kids become more mindful?

How can the kids become more empathetic towards other?

How can I better help my kids work through some of the disappointments of growing up?

How can I build a stronger relationship with my kids and wife?

How can I be more available at home while working on the extracurricular activities I’m volunteer with?

How can I be a better person?

These are some of the things I’m going to work on this year. The list will probably grow. I know it will grow and that’s fine, adapt and change. 

Two things The Rookie Dad was going to focus on this year was patience and consistency. 

Everything else is secondary. Lots of other things can change. Family is forever. We are  stuck together whether we like it or not. 

Take care and be awesome and big sexy.